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Happy New Year?

Saturday, January 5th, 2008

2008

It’s a little late to be wishing everyone a “Happy New Year!”, isn’t it? It depends on your point of view.

Each New Year brings New Year’s resolutions. New Year’s resolutions are a staple of society. Goals are set, lists are written, and gyms are packed with people determined to meet new goals in the New Year. Congratulations! Right?

Not so fast. Usually by the third week of January, the gyms are less crowded (mine is for sure). Writing a list becomes too time consuming for many (I’m busy!), and goals are either forgotten or written off as unachievable.

What happened?

What happens is that people lose their enthusiasm. The excitement generated when initially setting a new goal is lost in the day-to-day effort required to meet the goal. Without the excitement and enthusiasm, achieving the goal suddenly seems “hard” or “stupid”.

New Year’s resolutions are a quick fix. Like most quick fixes, they are prone to failure. Fast failure.

January 5th may seem to be a bit early to be making this observation, and hopefully, it is. Hopefully, those that chose to make resolutions are still excited about seeing them through.

And therein lies the key — excitement! Goals aren’t “work” — goals are exciting! Goals reflect what’s important to us. If it’s important to you, how can it not be exciting?

When you really, truly want something, you’ll take great steps to get it. Look over that list of resolutions — are you still excited today like you were on the day you “resolved”? If you are, keep seeing the goal in your hands! See yourself achieving it; feel the sense of accomplishment; feel the pride and joy associated with the success. Feel it — you’re allowed!

If some of the excitement has worn off, take a step back and reevaluate. Is the goal still important to you? Does it need to be tweaked? Changing your mind is not a sign of weakness — it’s a sign of maturity!

Achieving a goal is not a once-a-year event. If you’re big on “resolutions”, then resolve to make new ones every day, week or month. You don’t need a new calendar as an excuse.

Goal setting, planning, and success are life long processes. Making a habit of setting and achieving your goals will make your life fuller and happier than any one-time resolution ever will.

Check out Big Buts

Friday, January 4th, 2008

No, that’s not a typo. It’s “but” — not “butt”.

MillioniareMommyNextDoor features a great post today — read it here.

I want to be happier, but…

I want to make more money, but…

I want to, but…

You get the idea. Too often we make excuses as to why we “can’t” do or accomplish something. The reality is actually quite different: we can do anything we choose to do.

When you decide, it will be done. Whether you decide to do, accomplish, succeed, or overcome, when you really decide — when you make the commitment to yourself — it’s a done deal.

I’ve experienced this in my own life, and more importantly, I’ve seen it in lives around me. This isn’t something that “works” for me or someone else — it simply works.

Reality is inside your head. Our society tells us that reality is the “real world”, and for most in our society, the real world is not such a nice place.

But reality is what you make it. How you perceive the real world is your reality. Your thoughts, your desires, and your intentions are all determining factors in your reality. You have complete control over these things if you choose to exercise it.

Look at the world the way you want to see it. See yourself the way you want to be. Visualize your perfect reality, and the “real world” will follow suit.